I have one! Argh!

topic posted Mon, August 17, 2009 - 3:59 PM by  offlineMichael
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I am fairly active with the Christian ministry on my university campus. Anyway, I attended the first meeting of the academic year of said ministry. Shortly before I left for the night, two girls, one named Emily, introduced themselves. I thought she was cute.

I wouldn't say I am really friends with anyone from said ministry, but Emily soon became someone I would regularly exchange small talk with whenever I attended. Eventually, I added her and a couple of others I knew as Facebook friends.

A couple of months later, I found myself caught up in an awkward situation with a girl on another Internet forum. I alluded to it on my Facebook, and Emily inquired. I was blown away with her response. It was shortly thereafter i began to wonder if I weren't beginning to think of her differently. I realized she was not only cute, but smart committed to her faith, as well as serving others. She had previously just been some one I knew from campus whom I talked to sometimes.

That realization alarmed me because I cannot be sure if she has a boyfriend at all. Her Facebook account is totally silent on the matter. A couple of weeks ago, I sent her a Facebook message, having been matched on eHarmony with someone of the same name, hometown, Christian faith, and age. It wasn't her. I had been hoping she would disclose her own relationship status, but she hasn't. And when I chatted with her again via the same medium last week, the conversation never veered in the direction that would enable me to ask her about that. But because I could now state the minor she has declared with her Chemistry degree, where she has been working this past summer, and the fact she's not sure what she wants to do with said degree once she graduates, I felt very good about that. I realized i did indeed have a crush.

I really should just be assuming she does have a bf and not looking at her that way. But that doesn't seem to be keeping me gaurded towards her. This is really annoying!

Help!
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Michael
Canada
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  • If she hasn't told you whether of not she has a boyfriend, maybe she has one but they aren't serious or exclusive. Or maybe she is a private person and just hasn't put it on her profile because its personal. The most likely explanation is that a lot of single women don't put relationship status because they don't want to be approached by random guys.

    The good news (no pun intended, LOL) you are NOT a random guy! You have similar interests and interact in real life social circles. I say ask her out for coffee (or dessert! I would go for dessert, myself) after a service or a meeting and you can get to know each other. If that is too bold for you, and in your particular situation, you are in a good position to do some volunteer work together. That way you can get to know her, doing something you both care about, and its not even a date, so it doesn't matter if she has a BF or not. Once you get to know her a little better you will find out. A lot of times girls are wandering around wondering why someone doesn't ask them out. Don't worry about wether or not she has a boyfriend, the first step is to be her friend.

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