Actually, speaking of unwanted crushes, I should be careful what I wish for. I have a couple at work, one VERY crush-worthy engineer has joined the team, too bad I'm both taken AND work with him. He's downright dreamy, seriously, if I were to make a list of my turn ons, he's got every damn one. The other is kind of a half crush on two different guys. One actually knows I swing, (rarely!) but I'm SO not going there. The other guy is just really interesting.

I just can't help it, I'm into smart guys and I work at a company that makes robots! There was this one temp that was sort of sexually harassing me- and when my boss asked me and anther co worker what we thought of hiring him on permanently I told him about his odd behavior. I call it odd because I'm not sure if he was harassing me or if he was just weird, because it was more the later than the former. And my boss said "I don't really get the impression he's your type" and I thought in my head "please don't let it get out that I'm into smart quiet nerdy guys"

But this guy isn't nerdy at all, and aside from being smart, and playing bass, he's the anti-alex. Which is perfect because its part of our open marriage deal is that he has veto power and he prefers that I date guys who are nothing like him. If I met him ANYWHERE else I'd be shamelessly throwing myself at him. Hee hee hee... Alex is safe this time!!! *sigh*

Actually, I don't think monogamy is silly but really if you're going to choose a monogamous relationship, you should make sure that your partner is of the same frame of mind. I think some people are predispositioned to be monogamous and some have a polyamorous inclination. The problems happen when two partners are incompatible with their preference.

I,too, am envious. I haven't had a girlcrush since Angelina started adopting.. : (